What do I want more of?
A Question Worth Slowing Down For
Most of us move through life on autopilot. We wake up, check our phones, rush through tasks, and fall into bed—only to repeat the cycle the next day. Somewhere in that routine, an important question gets lost:
What do I actually want more of in my life?
Not what society expects. Not what looks impressive online. Not what you should want. But what you genuinely crave.
This question is like opening a window in a stuffy room. Fresh air comes in. Perspective shifts. Suddenly, life feels less like a checklist and more like a choice.
In this blog, we’ll explore what it really means to want more—and how to choose more of the things that nourish your mind, body, and soul, without overwhelming yourself.
1. Why Asking “More” Matters
Life expands or shrinks based on the questions we ask. When we never ask what we want more of, we settle for default settings.
This question matters because:
It brings awareness to unmet needs
It shifts focus from survival to fulfillment
It puts you back in the driver’s seat
Think of your life like a garden. If you never decide what to plant, weeds grow by default. Asking “what do I want more of?” helps you plant intentionally.
2. The Difference Between More and Meaningful
More isn’t always better. More money without peace feels empty. More work without purpose leads to burnout.
Meaningful more feels nourishing, not draining.
Ask yourself:
Does this add energy or take it away?
Does this align with my values?
Does this support the life I want long-term?
More becomes powerful when it’s aligned, not excessive.
3. More Clarity, Less Confusion
Confusion often comes from trying to want everything at once.
Clarity comes when you choose:
What matters now
What can wait
What no longer fits
Clarity isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about knowing your next step.
If you’re seeking deeper clarity, the reflective tools and insights on PKJ Coach’s personal development resources can support this journey.
4. More Time for What Truly Matters
We all have the same 24 hours, yet some people feel rushed while others feel grounded. The difference isn’t time—it’s priorities.
Want more time?
Say no more often
Stop multitasking
Protect your calendar like it matters—because it does
Time expands when you stop giving it away unconsciously.
5. More Energy, Not Just More Activity
Being busy doesn’t mean being alive.
Energy comes from:
Rest
Purposeful work
Emotional alignment
More energy often means doing less of what drains you and more of what fuels you.
Imagine your energy like a phone battery. You don’t need more apps running—you need better charging habits.
6. More Emotional Balance
Life isn’t about feeling happy all the time. It’s about feeling balanced.
More balance looks like:
Responding instead of reacting
Feeling emotions without drowning in them
Allowing both joy and sadness
Emotional balance helps you stay steady even when life gets messy.
7. More Confidence and Self-Trust
Confidence isn’t loud. It’s quiet certainty.
You build it by:
Keeping small promises to yourself
Making decisions and learning from them
Trusting your inner voice
Self-trust grows through action, not overthinking.
8. More Purpose, Less Pressure
Pressure comes from chasing external approval. Purpose comes from internal alignment.
Purpose doesn’t have to be grand. It can be:
Doing your work with care
Being present for loved ones
Growing a little each day
When purpose leads, pressure fades.
9. More Joy in Everyday Moments
Joy isn’t something you earn later. It’s something you notice now.
More joy comes from:
Gratitude for small wins
Slowing down
Being fully present
A cup of tea enjoyed slowly can bring more joy than a rushed vacation.
10. More Growth Without Burnout
Growth doesn’t have to hurt to count.
Sustainable growth includes:
Rest cycles
Reflection
Flexibility
Burnout isn’t a badge of honor. Growth that honors your limits lasts longer.
11. More Honest Relationships
Depth matters more than numbers.
More fulfilling relationships come from:
Honest conversations
Healthy boundaries
Mutual respect
Quality connections nourish you in ways achievements never will.
12. More Presence in a Distracted World
Attention is your most valuable resource.
Presence grows when you:
Put the phone down
Listen fully
Stay in the moment
According to research shared by Harvard Health Publishing, mindfulness and presence significantly improve mental well-being and life satisfaction.
13. How to Identify What You Want More Of
Try this simple reflection:
When do I feel most alive?
What do I miss when life feels heavy?
What do I wish I had more space for?
Your answers are clues.
For guided reflection and clarity, you may find value in coaching and mindset support at PKJ Coach.
14. Turning “More” Into Real-Life Action
Insight without action fades.
Start small:
Schedule one thing that matters
Create one supportive habit
Remove one distraction
Momentum builds when intention meets consistency.
15. Designing a Life That Feels Full
A full life isn’t crowded—it’s aligned.
When you choose more of what matters:
Life feels lighter
Decisions become easier
You feel more like yourself
You don’t need to add everything. You just need to add the right things.
Conclusion: Choosing More With Intention
Asking “What do I want more of?” is an act of courage.
It means you’re no longer settling. You’re choosing. You’re listening. You’re designing a life that feels rich from the inside out.
More peace. More clarity. More joy. More you.
Call to Action
👉 Ready to create more of what truly matters?
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. Why is asking what I want more of important?
Because it helps you align your life with your values instead of external expectations.
2. Can wanting more lead to dissatisfaction?
Only if it’s unintentional. Purposeful “more” increases fulfillment, not stress.
3. How often should I reflect on this question?
Quarterly or during life transitions is ideal.
4. What if I don’t know what I want more of yet?
That’s okay. Awareness comes before clarity. Start with curiosity.
5. How do I balance wanting more with being grateful?
Gratitude honors what you have. Intention guides where you’re going. Both can coexist.
